Life is going smoothly. It feels like a dream, you’re flying on cloud 9, and Bam!
You crash to the lowest bottom, completely shaken after an unfortunate incident. You come to your senses only to stand in a warzone where hardships are endlessly coming at you.
You’re being expected to be “normal” and walk with a smile pasted on your face when you are barely able to hold yourself together. But are you really fine?
This article will remind you that there is no fixed timeline for healing.
When Comforting Words Feel Futile
Heartbreak can come in many forms, and it affects each person differently, whether it’s a loss of a close one, a friend, or oneself.
But one thing stays consistent. The advice. People say the only comforting words they know, which start to get worse with time, like:
- “Time will heal.”
- “You are not the only one experiencing this.”
- “Get over it.”
Like a broken reset button, these words try to bring everything back to normal, or whatever normal will be from now on. You are rushed to move on, as if one week, a month, or a year is enough to heal. But healing is not linear. It comes in waves, not a straight line.
There are days when you’ll feel fine and then suddenly — without a warning — it all crashes down.
When You Choose to Walk at Your Own Pace
Life starts feeling like a marathon where everyone is running ahead in their lives, and you’re unable to keep up. No one sees you getting exhausted trying to tie your shoelaces with your trembling hands.
People take a lap, stop and ask about your well-being, and then move on with their lives. Hold onto the following reminders without exception during tough days.
Be Kind to Yourself
It’s okay if you feel this way. Feel all your chaos entirely and go through this storm instead of avoiding it.
Do Everything That Makes You Feel Better
Be it listening to Adele, scribbling your emotions, or being on your own. Don’t feel guilty about not being a happy person and doing stuff that makes you happy.
Grief Is Personal to You
Even if you express your sorrow, no one except you can understand how you truly feel. There’s no trophy for pretending you’re okay.
When You’re Ready to Give Back
One day, you will stand under the light and experience how it feels to be alive again. Be selfish with your energy until then. Let your heart refill with self-love before you begin to give again. Then pause when you see someone struggling to tie their laces—just like you once did.
You sit there and wrap them in the comfort of your silent presence. You tell them to take their time. You wait for them to tie their laces and walk with them like you wished somebody would do for you. Until then, please take your time and survive.
You are brave. Take one step at a time. It may not be fine right now, but it will be.
Promise.
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